I try to focus my blog on the teaching-aspect of homeschooling, but as all of you will attest, the line of parenting and homeschool is blurred at best. I don’t know if there really is a clear line between ‘parent’ and ‘teacher’ in a homeschool setting, and as there is a plethora of ways to homeschool, there are even more facets to parenting. Even the parents of two families who have both chosen a Christ-centered and Biblical approach will vary at some point in how they address specific issues. As a rule, in general, I hold that each parental unit has a right to raise their own children as they see fit whether they line up with societal or my own values.
So, why would I post about parenting? I’ve recently been given the opportunity to review both the book Taming the Lecture Bug… and Getting Your Kids to Think and the video lecture by Joey and Carla Link by Parenting Made Practical. There are a million books on parenting, but this one grabbed my attention because I find myself often responding reactively when my children slack in the listening and obeying department.
The book opens to discuss the ineffectual nature of ranting and lecturing when children misbehave (especially when they do so intentionally). As I mentioned above, I do have a tendency to do this. I’ve told you a hundred times…. These tirades are met with blank stares and do not effect change in future actions, as this isn’t the first time I’ve lectured on this, and it probably won’t be the last.
The first change that needs to happen is with me, the parent. I need to make sure I am in the right spirit without anger or frustration when correcting my kids. It’s a hard truth and a difficult one at times.
Here are just some of the main points discussed in the book when teaching and discipline your children:
- Teach expectations explicitly.
- Know their temperament (labeled as sanguine, choleric, melancholy, phlegmatic). Teach kids to use their strengths and help support challenge areas. Deal with temperamental tendencies.
- Ask questions to get to the root problem and provide support to correct it. Don’t deal with symptoms. Address the ‘why’ of the inappropriate action.
As parents, we set expectations, support them, and set them up for success but also teach them to recognize their own wrong doing and take responsibility for their actions.
The important thing we want to convey to our kids is that we want to live for Jesus — that the goal of the parenting is not to create robotic servants but children with soft hearts growing and changing toward God.
Have you read or watched Joey and Carla Link’s Taming the Lecture Bug… and Getting Your Kids to Think? I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.
Till Next Time,